Q:  My junior has always been so conscientious about school, but I can’t get him engaged in the college process.

A:  “What’s the rush, Mom?”  Procrastination about beginning the college search process is normal for many juniors.  While they are excited about the prospect of college, they are held back by fear of failure and trepidation about leaving home. 

Parents, understanding the competitive nature of the college admissions process, may focus too much energy on this upcoming transition by talking about it daily. Try making a deal with your student; we will only discuss college planning on the weekend or Wednesday nights.  A few hours of good communication is much better than daily resistance.

Because many students take direction better from almost anyone other than their parent, an educational consultant can help by setting goals and assisting in meeting deadlines.  We can also brainstorm and proof the essay, and make sure that all the applications are complete and submitted on time. 

So take a deep breath and try to relax.  The SAT will get taken, the college visits will be made, and the applications will get submitted.  It may not be on your timeline, but they do tend to get it done.